Have you ever seen a person so fake?
We can call that person a 2 sided or a liar.
I believed everyone hates this type of person. Don't you?
It is true that, in life, we will face this type of people somewhere. This type of creature can be avoidance if he is not around you for more than 12 hours.
However, what if that person is one of your family members? What will you do?
Many people will say we can't change that person however we can change our attitude towards that person. Maybe overtime, this type of creature may transform to a better creature. Who knows? Like an ugly duck to become a beautiful swan?
In my story, I think it is impossible. I can say he is a natural-born liar. He always lie to everyone.
Every time, a stranger ask him how is your financial for your family and your heath condition? He will usually reply "Oh, I definitely not enough money. Or I am still trying to work more to keep the family supported.", "My health definitely is not very good. However, if I do not work, who will bring in the income? You?". However, the reality to that is he spent some of money on cigarette. Cigarette can cause most of the health conditions he has. Every time, my family members told him to stop smoking so much. He could end up quarreling with all of us saying that he can't quit. And start bringing up that is our fault for causing the house in low income because we keep on spending lots of money. Do you know where the money was spent on? It is spent on daily necessarily such as cooking ingredients etc. I believed all the women or anyone who cooks meals for the whole family of 4 or more everyday, will know how much it cost buying all the necessary ingredients or the shopping for the family usage. It is not just a small sum of money but quite a huge sum of money.
And as a family, I think we should help each other. If he could not cope working alone to support everything including his urgent to spend on cigarette, then he should not have stop my mother from working to help out. If after hearing this, you think that he did that was because he do not want my mother to be very tired. Then you are totally wrong. His reason to that was to prevent other guy from falling in love with my mother and that she will run away. Come on! Where is the trust in relationship!? Hence, I think in a relationship, TRUST and SUPPORT are very important. If anyone don't want to keep up to these two words then I hoped that they should not be in a deep relationship. If not the suffering will not be you but the people around who still try to adapt and live with you.
I have been trying my whole life to adapt and be understanding to him. I tried to be nice to him such eating dinner with him, tolerant all his nonsense, try not to quarrel with him, do not change him in term of his cigarette etc. However, I think it is time to stop, he never change and I am tired of continuing trying. It is not worth of my time and have to believe that others will love me. --> My conclusion to this is Giving up something is not a wrong choice, it is a caring to yourself and who knows maybe you can use this strength to work on something you really like or love. Either achieve the goal or get a bit of happiness in your life.
Additionally, the whole house, the only person left is me. To clarify, left me with that liar is because my mother passed away. My mother is the best human ever in life, we suffered in this together and stayed till the end of our lives. --> This is called love 母爱.
Hence, whoever is reading this. Please appreciate your mummy more. Her love is unconditional and maybe sometime mysterious. However, their heart towards you most of the time is true.
Conclusion: These are three things for you to take away:
1. Fake human don't deserve too much of our time especially you have already tried enough.
2. Giving up doesn't mean failure, it just means Self-caring. And remember to use that strength to focus on other important goals or task you want to achieve.
3. Mother always love their kids. 世上只有妈妈好 <3
